Time to move again

Tuesday we finally heard the word- the bank had accepted our offer including the closing costs that we had asked for! We have both felt all along that this was the right house for us and that we were being led towards this home starting off with Tim's parents letting us live with them during this crazy time and trying to find a new house. First, the house had been on the market for about a month and a half, but no one else had even made an offer. Then the house was right in our price range and had just about everything we needed in a home. Next, the house is literally right across the street from where Tim's mom grew up so the family thinks it's really neat. And then now we really didn't have to wait much more than about a month, which is great for a short sale home, especially since the sellers had their mortgage between 2 banks. We've also locked in a really, really low rate of 4.375 % and that might go down a little lower too! We just feel so blessed with this house situation.

But after all of those feelings I still feel conflicted and that all revolves around church. Now we're going to have to actually switch our records over. I'm sad to leave the ward because this is the ward where both of my girls were born. It's the ward where I was baptized and got to see my wonderful husband become active again and become the true leader in our home. I've finally gotten to know people in the ward enough to where I don't sit alone at activities or have nothing to say anymore.... but that's where my sadness ends. I've made friends, but Tim hasn't and so we hardly ever do anything with other couples in the ward. Mainly we just show up at ward activities and after the last one, Tim said he was refusing to go again... why you might ask??? Not a single person besides myself said anything to him. Not a one at all. Now we live a good half an hour away from our building and he thought it was pointless to drive all that way just to talk to me when he could have done that at home. How can I argue with that?? The only thing that has probably kept Tim coming to church is his testimony and his family because he tells me that almost every week he sits by himself in elder's quorom- the only time anyone really talks with him is about 4 people and sorry, but not naming names right now. And to make matters worse since we've moved out into the valley I've even been feeling very out of touch with people in our ward. We've both been very close to switching over our records to Tim's parents ward even for just a short while. Literally, their building is 5 minutes away... so basically the only reason that we've been driving all that ways is to keep in touch with people.

Overall I think that we're both glad for a fresh start. The past few years have been very difficult for us with the complete 180 that we did with our lives. Once we did that we basically had to be very careful what we did and we lost a lot of the close friends that we had before. As I've gotten older I've realized how important it is to keep friends around with similar values as you have, especially when your kids are involved. I just wish that we could have established some better friendships in our ward. I know I've made a few good friends that I feel lucky to have met, but I wish that I could say the same for Tim. It really makes me sad on our drive home from church to ask him about his classes to get the same response every sunday. He loves church and has a wonderful testimony and I'm so thankful for that because if it weren't for that I'm not sure we would be in the same position we are now as we're both ready to go to the temple together now. I'm very thankful for where we are in life and I can't deny feeling very blessed lately! I'm really just hoping that a new ward will bring a new start for us as well!