Monday, January 13, 2014
I need to be a better version of myself- mentally, physically, emotionally, and most importantly spiritually.
I feel like this past year I have lost a part of myself somewhere. I'm not sure if that's what happens when your life is so consumed of taking care, nurturing, growing, and raising your lil ones, but somewhere along the way I have lost sight of who I need to be. Regardless of why it has happened things need to change.
This past year has been super busy for us. We've taken lots of trips, made our first ever alone trip without our children to a foreign country (just mexico, but hey that's big for us!), we are expecting child #4, started and are nearing completion of a huge remodel project upstairs that has completely cramped the rest of our house, and many many other things along the way.
I've had to take a serious step back and evaluate myself this year. I've been attacked more this past year than I can even remember being since high school. Saddest part is that it's been by people close to me. When that happens it really makes you question if you are really that horrible of a person as others are making you out to be... and while I can see room for improvement in my life, I'm so lucky so have a wonderful and HONEST husband who has kept me grounded and let me know that what others say about me isn't always my own fault and that no I'm not that bad. So this past year was a huge step for me in removing toxic people and environments from my life and learning to stand up for myself again. Remembering how I deserve to be treated.
This upcoming year will be one of many changes as well. Finally finishing our remodel project and regaining sanity in our home. I can't even tell you how much I'm looking forward to that. Our last and final addition to our family. Working on a newer inside and out version of myself. Those all make me so happy. It's something that I need and in doing that I will be a much better wife, mother, and friend.
Tuesday, January 7, 2014
|Yeppers- baby boy on the way!!!|
Monday, January 6, 2014
Yes loudly and very rudely... these situations are always hard to walk away from with a smile.
I tried as politely as I could to smile and walk away as I told her that I still had about 2 months left.
But of course she couldn't let it go at that.... she followed with "What are you having a 10lb baby??"
I was just itching to get away from this lady as I quietly replied back that I'd never had a 10 lb baby. I mean seriously my biggest was Natalie and she was only 8lb 7oz- and I was huge with her as well.
As I finally escaped this lady I only had a minute or two break as she followed me.... yes she followed me....
to ask me AGAIN if I still had 2 months left. Luckily she left with only a yes reply this time.
Okay SERIOUSLY people!~ Are you asking me to really be like a volcano and spew my crazy pregnancy hormones all over you when you say something clearly tactless and thoughtless like that??!! Yes I'm pregnant. Yes I get big. No I don't get "pretty" pregnant where I only gain in my belly. I gain freaking weight EVERYWHERE! In my face, butt, legs, arms, feet, and then my belly gets ginormous. Every pregnancy, except for my first, I get asked if I'm carrying twins. I'm a bit used to people clearly disregarding my feelings by now, but when someone is so blatantly rude like that it's VERY hard to walk away from that. Even my husband was shocked when I told him later what had happened... and he was even more shocked that I didn't fire back at her.
So a word of advice... be kind to pregnant women. Be extra super duper with a cherry on top kind. And to be honest, sometimes that isn't even enough... or sometimes I can see through your fake crap anyways and don't want anything to do with you. Enjoy- that's part of the joys of having a million crazy hormones pumped through your body every day to grow the tiny little human inside... they make you seriously crazy... and seriously emotional. Not a great combo, especially in a woman.
So back off people. Apparently you need a life lesson in "think about what you say before you say it"...
because you better be glad I did when you say that junk to me
Sunday, January 5, 2014
After church my girls are always begging to do a craft or color and I almost always have extra copies of stuff from my primary lessons. Well this was from a few weeks ago- the lesson was all about families and they were supposed to draw in their immediate family tree.
If you look down at Tim and I we both have"circles" drawn on us.... and when we asked her what they were... Tim has a carrot and I have a mushroom
Ohmygoodnesss! I can't even tell you how hard we laughed. Silly kids :D
Thursday, January 2, 2014
I reluctantly said no it's ok I can't make us do that even as both of my older girls were shouting at their daddy to turn the van around right now and get mommy's boots lol. He just said ok then we'll have my sister ship them. So when he called her up and asked her to expedite ship them- internationally by the way- I was shocked! If anyone has ever tried to ship anything to another country... well it's a bit absurd what they want to charge you. But once again he was just trying to make me happy. I sure love him for it too.
So my boots are en route right now thanks to a loving hubby and an awesome sis in law. And now I will really be able to call my boots a splurge lol.
Wednesday, November 13, 2013
Personally I always wondered how women/ marriages came to that conclusion. I'm deep in the midst of my child bearing part of life, as are most of the people around me. Some are just starting, some are a few kids in, some aren't sure if they want more, and some- the very select few my age- will openly admit that they are DONE!! And they say it with a sigh of relief and a smile that will brighten a room.
Some I have talked with say that they have a "feeling" or they have had dreams knowing that they are not done yet along with a million other reasons. But not many women will give you their specific reasons for being done. Because in doing that we sound like horrible mothers and disgusting women when the truth is really that we have reached our limits in one way or another.
So here comes my story. I AM DONE!!! Well not quite- I mean I do need to finish this current pregnancy which I am currently 23 wks- but after that I AM DONE!!! I don't give a flying crap about what people say about me being only 28, blah, blah, blah... Guess what (especially to my uber opinionated m.i.l.) I don't care what you think or say. WE (yes we as in my hubby and I) are done and completely agree on this.
You see after I had my 3rd child I felt like I could conquer the world and the possibility of having 6+ children entered into my mind. Crazy, yes, but at the time I felt like it was very possible. Fast forward to now, a little over a year later, and I know for sure that 4 is enough for me. Now to the why:
As sad as it is for me to admit, I have felt very drained: physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually... you name it I've been it. I've felt very alone and depressed. It's a bit scary to admit that you've been feeling depressed, but I guess at least I'm mature enough to admit that, well to the world now. I've found myself not being the best version of myself that I know I can be, especially in my eternally important roles as wife and mother. As much as I would love an even bigger family, I want my children to see a happy positive mommy. Not one who loses her temper too easily or is withdrawn and crying between bouts of yelling. Yes I know that pregnancy can bring out some strong hormones in a woman- obviously this is the case with me and some women handle it better than others. I want my husband to have a loving and supportive wife who is not dead to the world most days from complete lack of energy.
These past few months have been a serious struggle for me. My house has been under construction since mid May and in turn I feel like the rest of my life has been in complete disarray as well. But coming to my realization has given me a light at the end of my tunnel.
So this is our big announcement: THIS WILL BE OUR LAST BABY!
And I would gladly shout it from any rooftop.